Saturday, May 28, 2011

BYOC - Bring Your Own Crazy...Saturday Edition

Each Friday, I read my buddy Drazil's posts called BYOC.  I tell myself every week that I will join in, and then never get around to it.  So, this time, I decided I would join in...just a day late.  She does hers on Friday - I'm gonna do mine today.

BYOC is basically asking a few random questions.  Feel free to join in - it's lots of fun.

1.  When is the last time you gave and got a compliment?

Yesterday, I was at the park with Jelly and ran in to a friend I haven't seen in a while.  The first thing out of her mouth was "you look amazing!!"  I love running in to people I haven't seen in a while for this very reason.  Yes, I'm an attention whore - can't help it. 

As soon as I thanked her for the nice compliment, I gave it right back to her.  She had a baby not so long ago, but you wouldn't be able to tell by looking at her.  She looked stunning - and I told her so.

2.  What do you wear to bed?

From the moment I walk into my house, I'm striping off my "work clothes" and grabbing for the closest pair of shorts and an old t-shirt.  They are my comfy clothes.  Sometimes I wear shorts, sometimes it's PJ capris.  I just consider them "home" clothes cause the shirts are usually stained or old - or they're just frumpy and make me feel comfy...I'm a poet and didn't know it.

I'm the messiest eater in the world - and well, somehow food and other junk seem to find their way on to my clothes when I'm at home.  In order to protect my good clothes - I have to make sure I lose them as soon as possible after walking in the door.  Those same comfy clothes stay on me until it's time to get ready to leave the next day.

3.  If you could pick your dream job – with no worries of shifts or money or bosses or commute – what would it be and where?

For those of you that have following me for a while could answer this for me. 

My dream job is to teach.  My dream grade is 3rd grade.  In regards to where?  Anywhere in Northwest Arkansas.  I don't want to move - all of my family and friends are here.  There are a couple of school districts I prefer over others... but any 3rd grade teaching job would be my ultimate dream job. 

I've worked my @ss off for the past 4 years in college to pursue my dream job.  I didn't put all that time, money, and effort in to doing something different.  COME ON JOB FAIRIES!!!

4. Okay – I’m not trying to start some huge controversy with this question but I have to put it out there. If you’re being honest – do you think staying at home or working outside the home is harder? Can you honestly recognize they are both equally hard? Even if you don’t have kids – have you heard others talk about the two professions judgementally?

Before I answer this - go check out Drazil's answer to this question by clicking on the question.  I totally get where she's coming from - but here's my answer....

Shortly after Butter was born, I spent time as a stay-at-home mom.  I stayed home every day with Peanut, who was a year old, and Butter, who was a newborn.  I had worked since I was 14, but the place I was living had practically no jobs available - or the jobs that were available didn't give me daycare options.  I just thought it better to stay at home.

It was probably the hardest year of my life.  While I loved staying home with them - I received next to no adult interaction and my life was filled with changing diapers, making meals, cleaning, cooking, bathing, feeding....rinse, and repeat.  Once I moved back to Arkansas, I swore that I could never be a stay at home mom again.

Then, four years ago, I started college.  Not only did I go to college, but I worked.  My days were filled with getting up, going to work, then going to class, coming home and cramming as much homework in as possible before literally passing out from exhaustion.  As you can see - the kids weren't mentioned at all in that paragraph.

What I thought was hard as a stay at home mom was absolutely nothing compared to telling my kids - "I'm sorry, I have to get some work done" or "no, we can't do that this weekend because I have a lot of homework to do" or "I can drop you off at your school function, but I won't be able to stay because I have too much to do".  THAT, my friends, trumped what I thought to be the hardest year of my life - and I did it for two years.

Two years ago, I made some adjustments.  I quit my job and focused on school full-time.  I scheduled "work time" to be after they went to bed.  I came home from work, and spent the evenings with them. Then I started my internship back in August and went back to work all day - homework all night.  I made sure that two nights a week, and most of the weekend was spent with the kids.  A couple of nights a month, I went out with some girl friends to get some "me" time.  It wasn't to get away from the kids - Lord, no - it was just some time to get away from the stress, the work, and to be able to vent our frustrations.

Two weeks ago, as I walked across the stage to receive my diploma, there were only three things on my mind: Peanut, Butter, and Jelly.  FINALLY, I'd be able to spend time with them.  I will never be able to give them back the four years that I was too consumed in work to be the perfect mommy... but I swore to myself that my kids would never miss out on me anymore.

So, to answer this question, both are tough.  Being home with the kids all day - especially if there is no adult interaction can be very difficult.  On the reverse, being gone all day and working all evening is just as (if not more) hard.  There has to be an equal balance.  Being gone while they're in school is good - but once we all get home....we HAVE to spend time together.

5. Summarize your week in blogland and in real life.

Blogland has been great.  I've got back to blogging every day - and my life is back in balance.  I'm starting my "Bee Fit" test and planned out how I'm going to start giving 110% to my working out and fitness part of my journey.  I've also gained some new followers - always LOVE that!!

In real life, things have been...OK.  I interviewed for a job Wednesday - and I hate the waiting game that comes after an interview.  I want this job so's basically everything I said in question 3.  I didn't walk away from the interview having any clue or idea if I was going to get the job.  I have a sinking feeling in my heart that I didn't...not sure why, but I just do.

I had a good time subbing this week.  Got to experience 7th grade - that was interesting.  Got to spend some time with the kiddos - mostly Jelly cause the other two are still in school.  It was nice to just go to the park and enjoy lunch together....can't wait for more of that this summer.

OK, so that's it for my BYOC.  If you'd like to join in, link up in the comments so I can read your responses.  I might just make this a weekly's fun to not have to think about what to write about.

Enjoy your Saturday, everyone!!

Till next time. ;)
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1 comment:

  1. That's half the point of BYOC - not having to come up with something to blog about! I love your answer to #4 - very interesting and I'm still praying you get that job! GREAT BYOC!


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